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MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ...

A Story that personally touched my ♥ Heart ♥

MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I ob

served the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥

♥ A Heart Touching Story ♥

Bit long but ♥ Heart Touching Story ♥

There was once this guy who was very much in love with his girl.This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as agift to his girl.

Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, hisfuture didn't seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back..She al

so told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then...Heartbroken, the guy agreed.

But when he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself.Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy hadset up his own company...You never fail until you stop trying.

One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realize they were his girl's parents.

With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury Sedan.He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same any more; he had his own company, car, condo, etc.He made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right beside her...

Her parents saw him..He asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all.She was ill with cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle... Therefore she had chosen to leave him.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again. He can take some of those back with him...

"Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may escape but what's in your heart will remain forever"

The guy just wept all day and for the rest of his life...

The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside her knowing you can't have her, see her or be with her ever again.

Hope you all understand.

Find time to realize that there is one personwho means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you thought meant nothing to you.

What is stronger WILL.. DESTINY...LUCK ?

There is nothing as 'LUCK' .We term some pleasant surprises as Luck.But its only a fruit of our 'KARMA '. One's Karma defines his destiny.If one can change his 'Karma 'he is able to change his destiny.The three types of Karma - Sathwik , Rajas , n Tamas .By birth itself one's Karma is determined.We understand it as our natural instinct .Accordingly we are choosing our ways.YES BOTH ARE THE COMBINATION OF EACH OTHER SOMETIMES OUR KARMA PLAYS ALL THE ROLE AND SOMETIMES WHEN THINGS HAPPEN UNEXPECTEDLY THEN WE SAY THAT WAS DUE TO OUR DESTINY...You can change and write your own destiny through karma....Karma plays dominating role in our life. Fate is the events that will happen to a person that cannot be changed.
and luck will be on our side if we work towards our aim honestly and bring us success....i would not say that they dont play avital role. luck and destiny play an important role in life. they even decide many, but you must keep trying for all the thing....Destiny is what we belive we can achieve and luck is when we achieve more than what we are destined for. If we believe in them we will follow our destiny :) 

Why women are not safe at any corner ?

Women who have been recognized as the most beautiful creation of the God in this world are living in a threat in today’s world.

We have examples of great women in this world from many decades setting example for the coming generationand fighting, sacrificing their lives for noble causes. We have lot of names in our world history where women broke all the barriers and engraved their names in the history of world like few of them listed here – Queen of Jhansi Rani Laxmi Bai, Sarojni Naidu, Fatima a D/O Muhammad, Queen Elizabeth who was known for her beauty, intelligence and boldness, late Mrs Benazir Bhutto, Late Mrs, Indira Gandhi ,former PM of India, who changed the face of an under developed country into a developing and booming country with all her efforts etc. Women be its at home, family, society, always have been a great boon to the society, country and the world as a whole for simple and great reasons as well. . She being responsible for many good and beautiful things on this earth and cause of supporting thehuman race on this earth is a gift of God to us. But a big question mark lies here as to “why women are not safe at any corner?”. In our history and also in the past, we have various examples about torture on women for several causes ; some time in the name of religion, self respect for sake of beliefs, dowry and also for the cause of rich wells, rules and man -made boundaries. But she has always been somewhere or the other treated just like a commodity or a material and most of the time either public or private property.

It is really unfortunate that metropolitan cities like Delhi which has got so many plus points in the shape of latest technology always tops in the list of women rapes, molestation and wife bashing. Not only this, education is such a strong hold in these metropolitan cities of the country , then why on earth people behave in such a barbaric manner ? In fact in such of the places where women are not safe, the people who buy every thing with the help of money treat woman at par with the sex object.

Their destiny is not decided by God but by their male family members. Sometime with or without the consent of their mothers who brought them into this world.

But there are some of the concerns of our society which can be eradicated, removed and abolished with proper growth of literacy in the particular State or villages, awareness in the society and many more measures. My concern is now on a new criminal illegal growth spreading with a spurt in our society that is sexual harassment of a woman.

In today’s world as our day to day life we come across a lot of news and information in newspapers and through media etc., that women are living with a threat of being sexually harassed or in other words forcefully asked to fulfill the several desires of man without her consent and not only adults, but nowadays teenagers like school and college going girls are facing same threat in their everyday life. This is a practice growing in our society in not only villages and small towns due to illiteracy and ignorance but also seen in most of the number of casesincreasing in our Metropolitan cities.

I want to throw light on the condition of today’s women and the difficulty they are facing in society in India or in any other part of the world and my effort is not to disrespect any country but to bring reality in terms of individual and showing concern about the matter. This is just a salute to all the women of the world who have made our lives beautiful for the role played by them in their own fine manner.

wah!

Wo jo Rehta tha is dil mein kabi "apnon"ki tarah,

Aisa bhola k milta hy ab "sapnon"ki tarah,

Pal pal karta tha jo sath"nibhane"ki batain,

Chorr gaya hm ko purani "rasmon"ki tarah,

Ruswa huay "zamany"mein to ye jana,

Tere waady b thy jhooty teri "qasmon"ki tara.

It’s impossible to find someone who won’t hurt you, so go for the person worth the pain.

relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.
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